The truth about sex

When it comes to sex we have a lot of myths which come along with a lot of excitement, and we cannot speak to anybody openly about it, only sex education we get is through books, which isn’t sufficient, many parents still aren’t comfortable to talk about sex to their teenagers.

Here trying to break a few myths about sex-

MYTH- IS A BIGGER PENIS BETTER?

  • TRUTH- Penises comes in all shapes and sizes. The idea that bigger is better is simple false. What really makes sex better is compatibility with your partner and open communication about what you feel good about and what you don’t like.

MYTH – VAGINAS ARE TIGHT OF LOOSE DEPENDING ON THE AMOUNT OF SEX A PERSON HAS HAD.

  •   TRUTH- The “ tight versus loose” idea is fairly common, but it is purely false. The vagina soften and lengthen, making insertion easier. If the muscles of the vagina won’t naturally contract, making insertion difficult.

MYTH – SEX IS PAINFUL

  • TRUTH- Sex should feel GOOD even if you’re having it for the first time or if you have had sex before. Feeling safe and comfortable is what is important. If someone is nervous and tense, their muscles may contract, which may cause discomfort. If something doesn’t feel good, tell your partner. You may need to slow down, use a lubricant if necessary or stop until you aren’t feeling ready and comfortable. IT IS OKAY SO SAY ‘NO’.

Myth – you can’t get pregnant if….You a) are going through your periods B) It’s your first time C) You are in a certain position D) By rinsing with water after using a douche

  • TRUTH- Pregnancy can occur when a sperm contacts and fertilizes an egg. While only one egg is released each month, ejaculation (and pre-ejaculate) carries about 200 million sperm. And it only takes one sperm to fertilize an egg. The best way to prevent pregnancy is by using a barrier (condom) and birth control.

MYTH- VIRGINITY ONLY APPLIES TO VAGINAL SEX. OTHER KINDS OF SEX DON’T COUNT.

  • TRUTH- For century, the word “virginity” has been used to describe a heterosexual woman who has not had vaginal sex. Tis obviously doesn’t represent people of all genders and sexual orientation—who likely have a different meaning of virginity. The ‘first time’ for everyone is subjective and personal —it means something different to each person. Everyone should be able to decide how important their virginity is and what it means to them.

MYTH – MASTURBATION IS HARMFUL

  • TRUTH– Masturbation is healthy and safe, as long as the person doing it feels good about it. Masturbation is very common and normal. Many people masturbate, but some people don’t. Everyone has a different interest in masturbation. There are appropriate times and places for masturbation though, like in your bedroom with the door closed and latched or wherever it is private and safe.

MYTH – YOU CAN GET AN STD FROM A TOILET SEAR OR FROM SOMEONE WHO LOOKS MESSY.

  • TRUTH – STDs(Sexually transmitted diseases) are transmitted through boys fluids such as vaginal fluids, anal/butt fluids, pre-ejaculate, ejaculate/semen/blood, sometimes through skin to skin contact (i.e. herpes). The best way to prevent transmission to get tested regularly (especially before having sex with a new partner) and use protection such as a condom.

MYTH – CONDOM TAKES AWAY THE FEELING AND PLEASURE OF SEX.

  • TRUTH– Condoms come in different colours, shape, sizes and texture. Comfort and fit is important— you may need to try more than one brand to find what works for you. Other than abstinence, condoms are still the best way to prevent STDs and pregnancy. Let’s be honest, reducing risk is a turn on.

MYTH – ANAL SEX IS ONLY FOR GAY Men only

  • TRUTH– Wanting to try different sexual activities with your partner doesn’t mean anything about your sexual orientation. Communicating with your partner about your desire is a great way to see what you’re into and what you’re not.

MYTH – PORNOGRAPHY ACCURATELY PORTRAYS SEX.

  • TRUTH– Pornography is a business which makes money out of it. It is made up( acted upon) to show different versions of someone’s fantasy world with fake characters. How people experience sex in the real world is very different. In real life, sex should b about intimacy, mutual respect, and clear and enthusiastic consent. Don’t expect your partner to do something after you’ve watched a movie or pornography. It isn’t real.

MYTH- SEX IS ONLY GOOD IF YOU HAVE AN ORGASM.

  • TRUTH– Sex should be pleasurable with or without an orgasm. The fact is some people never reach orgasm, while others might have multiple orgasms. It is the experience, not the ultimatum. The entire experience should be pleasurable and enjoyable, don’t miss the fun for the climax.

MYTH – OLDER ADULTS DON’T HAVE SEX

  • TRUTH– Sex may look and feel differently at every stage of life. Even if someone is older, they are still sexual beings and should or can continue to learn and explore their sexuality- no matter how many candles are on their birthday cake. It can individual choice , you don’t be the judge for someone’s personal decisions.

MYTH- PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES OR CHRONIC ILLNESS CAN’T HAVE SEX.

  • TRUTH– Many people have different levels of ability. Regardless of someone’s ability. They still can be sexually active and can enjoy consensual sex with their partner.

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